FRIENDSHIP

                                      FRIENDSHIP 

1. The role of friends play in our lives has become significantly greater than at any other time in a history. Today many of us live and work at great distances from where we were born or grew up and are separated from a our original families . The pain we feel when we are away from our families and can be significant.

2. The happiness of the individual relies on friendship which form a necessary human connection. It is perfectly normal to need and want friends and depression is more prevalent among those who lack friends. They lack the intimacy and richness friends can bring into our lives. Frequently friends reflect similar values to us. Yet these values are often different from the ones we grew up with; they are the values we created for our self in our adult lives.

3. Communication skills are fundamental in all friendships. The more friends and acquaintances one has the greater or one’s communication skills. some call these, people skills.

4.  Like weathering a plant we grow our friendship bye nurturing them. friendships need the same attention as other relationships if they are to continue . Theses relationships can be delightfully non judgmental supportive understanding and fun.

5. Sometimes our friendship can bring out the positive side that you never show in any other relationship. This may be because the pressure of playing a role (daughter partner or child) is removed. With a friend you are to be yourself and free to change .  of course you are free to do this in all other relationships as well but in friendship you get to have a lot of rehearsal and discussion about changes as you experience them. It is an unconditional experience where you receive as much as you give. you can explain yourself too a friend openly without the fear of hurting a family member . how do friends group? the answer is simple by relieving yourself; being aattentiv;eremembering what is the most important to your friend and asking them about it putting yourself in their position showing empathy seeing the world through the eyes of your friend you will understand the value of friendship. All this means learning to accept a person from a completely different family to your own or perhaps someone from a completely different culture background . this is the way we learn tolerance. In turn we gain  tolerance and acceptance for our own differences.

6. Friendship are made by being considerate which means all the communication skills come into play: active listening skills, questioning skills ,negotiation skills, reflecting content skills, reflecting emotion skills and editing yourself.

7. Friendship offers a great opportunity to learn about yourself because a friend can reflect back to you how you come across in the world .they also allow you to practice skills in dealing with personal boundaries by looking after yourself as well as your friend .they help you develop resilience in relation to the wider social world beyond your family.

TRUE FRIENDS ARE  LIKE SHADOW THEY ALWAYS WITH YOU